Four things to leave behind in 2018

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Dr. Gia Sison shares her take on starting over again this new year. Illustration by JL JAVIER

Manila (CNN Philippines Life) — Starting over again entails you to free yourself from the things that are holding you back — closing the past and deciding to break free from the baggage that seems to hold you back from moving forward. We all need to begin somewhere, and so here’s my personal take on how to start over again this year.

Free yourself from grudges. These create problems and causes unhappiness, strain on our present relationships, and make us reluctant to open up to new things and people. Anger is a vicious cycle that tends to make us miss out on the beauty of life as it happens.

Free yourself from dishonesty. Many of us choose to settle on carrying the weight of our own silence, hoping that one day it will all just “go away.” But life has a way of catching up. In the end, expression will always be the winner; it will always elevate our lives to a higher level.

Free yourself from selfishness. Every person can make a difference and every person should try. Life echoes back the goodness you give in whatever form, so do something greater than you — something that will help lessen somebody else’s suffering.

Free yourself from the fear of failing again. In life, there is no guarantee that we won’t stumble again, but you just need to allow the process to happen. We all have experienced points of intense decision-making where we tend to over-analyze and hesitate. When moments like these occur, remember that no one has ever progressed in life with fear by their side. Be fearless. Take a deep breath, break the cycle, and go for your heartfelt goal. Courage will not fail you.


All of the points mentioned above are all doable, but you and only you can make it happen. Here, I leave you with a few final reminders:

Make an effort to eliminate the “I don’t know what to do” statement from your vocabulary. You’ll figure it out. But please be patient with yourself along the way.

“Remember that no one has ever progressed in life with fear by their side.”

Everything you have ever done has brought you to this point. Start fresh. Break the cycle that inhibits you to move forward. Instead, respect your fear but challenge it enough to get over it. Passion is fuel. Acknowledge your dream, declare it, and share it. Most of all, realize that you can definitely achieve it.

Make it a point to learn and relearn, bearing in mind that we are all a “work in progress.” The universe is always expanding and that includes you.

Do what you say you’re going to do and commit to it. Goals are like arrows. Keep it pointed to where you want it to go. Do a little more of what you want to do every day until your ideal becomes what is real. Goodness has got your back always. We all want to be free of the things we didn’t do when we had a chance, like that priceless relationship we neglected or those words we left unspoken. In the end, we should aim to be free of regretting the chances we should have taken and decisions we waited too long to make. But life is one big chance, so go ahead, take it. Here’s a toast to new beginnings this coming year.